Why I Finally Married...at 49!

In No Longer An Audience of One and Was I Right?, I explained that I wanted to go back through some of my BigChurch blog posts, linking to them and/or inserting portions of them here, while adding post-David (i.e. after meeting and marrying David) perspectives and commentary and answering the question, was I right?

So without further ado...

On 4/9/2006, I wrote Why I'm Still Single...At 48!, my second post on my BigChurch blog.

As I go back and read this post, I'm amazed at how bold and confident I was in saying this:

Do you want to know the REAL reason I'm still single? Because I haven't met my David yet! It's as simple as that!

 God has a plan for my life, and in that plan--already established before the foundations of the earth--is the provision for everything I need to carry out His will and His purposes for my life. And if that includes a mate--and it does!--then it's not about IF I find someone; it's about WHEN I find THE ONE who will propel me into the next chapter in my life without needing to rewrite the book.

As I said in my profile, I've spent much time on the potter's wheel. I've been in preparation for many years...for ministry AND for marriage. The Lord has been working me over BIG TIME!

So when the person He has chosen for me comes into my life, He's not going to, all of a sudden, throw out everything He's been progressively doing in my life and take me in a completely different direction. That's absurd. Will there be changes? Absolutely! I expect that. Will I need to make adjustments? Of course! But the basic work or theme of what He has been doing in my life for the past 27 years will NOT be re-worked or cast aside, merely added onto and further expanded.

So how will one know if he's my David? It will be revealed to him by the Holy Spirit. I absolutely believe that...just like it'll be revealed to me and confirmed in my own heart. And all the various critical pieces of our personalities and our purposes will divinely fit together.  No doubt!

Do you know how, when you are working a jigsaw puzzle, you may search and search to find a place for the puzzle piece in your hand, but it will only fit in one place? That's the way I believe it will be with the one I've been waiting on all these years.

Why am I still single? Just haven't found the one I fit with yet!

Was I right?  YES!  Amazingly...exactly...on every point...YES!
 
So, why didn't I get married until I was 49?  It took that long to meet my David!  Was he worth the wait?  As one of my favorite politicians says, You betcha!  :-)
 
Are there things in your heart you believe the Lord has clearly revealed to you?  Hang onto them.  Don't be afraid to boldly speak of them.  For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks (Matt 12:34).  And, "delight thyself also in the Lord and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart."  (Ps. 37:4).

Was I Right?

For more than 24 years--from sometime in early 1982 to late 2006--I talked about my David--a man after God's own heart and the person I believed the Lord had chosen for me and vice versa.  No, I didn't talk about him constantly, or even think about him all that much, at times.  But, if you knew me for very long or very well at all, you heard me talk about my future mate...with confidence and an assurance that was possibly even borderline arrogant to some.  (And probably a bit flaky or kooky to others.)

While many of my family and friends knew I was waiting on my David, not many knew of all the things I shared on my BigChurch posts leading up to my actually meeting him.  And I shared a LOT!

So, like I said in my No Longer An Audience of One post, I'm going to go back through some of my BigChurch posts, linking to them and/or inserting portions of them here, while adding post-David (i.e. after meeting and marrying David) perspectives and commentary.  And one of the questions I will be answering is, was I right?

Yes, as it turns out--humorously and most amazingly--his name IS David!  But there were a lot of other things I was looking for in him or expecting him to be like, and I talked much about that in my posts.  For instance, this is a portion of what I said in my BigChurch profile:

My Ideal Person:

I'm looking for my David--a man after God's own heart--a spirit-filled, worshipping, God-chaser; the one who I've been divinely designed to fit with. Is he a singer, musician, or involved with music in some way? Maybe, but maybe not. What IS a given is the music that floats my boat doesn't sink his and vice versa!

Beyond his spiritual maturity and walk with the Lord, the single-most critical factor in determining whether or not someone is my David isn't his personality, his character, his values, his interests, or his looks--although those are important.  It's his purpose.

Do you know what your purpose is? Will my calling (what you know of it) fit with yours, and vice versa?

I've met some really great guys through posting my profile here and on other relationship web sites the past two years. I've also met some that...well...we won't go there. (big grin)

But instead of searching for someone with all the right stuff so to speak, I'm searching for the person I'm called to run my race with because when I do, I believe I'll find not only the man who will fill a void I now have, but will complete the picture and propel me into the next chapter in my life without needing to re-write the book.

Was my inner-image of him accurate?  Is he like I thought he would be...or were there a few surprises?  And what did he think of all I had written about my David?

Well...there's only one way for you to find out.  I need to stop talking what I'm going to do...and just do it! 
Amen? :-)

So, check back regularly.  And always, I welcome your comments and interaction.

Sharon

No Longer An Audience of One

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